On True Proactivity

I arranged for my son to get to a children’s party with the help of other parents, since I was working, and I thought about the process.

My son really wanted to go to the party, really wanted to, and he didn’t tire of reminding me at every opportunity. His persistence was a stimulus for me too — to call, to talk, to look for options. And everything worked out.

I’m sure that if there hadn’t been a constant pressure of “I want” from my son, I would have stopped at the first failed attempt, because inside I don’t have that same “I want” on my child’s behalf.

I think the trick is that the energy was flowing correctly, like in an electrical circuit: there is a source of constant current (my son’s strong desire), and then the links of the chain begin to close, along which the current runs and produces the necessary changes. And if it were not direct current but only a one-time initial impulse, no movement would have happened.

In life, though, it happens that the second, third, or some subsequent link takes on the function of the power source instead of the first one who initially needed it. And then the first falls out of the circuit and does not receive the desired, but the other links also find the achieved result useless as hell.